This may seem like statement of affirmation in the image above, but don't forget that many people you seem to always have to text first are very introverted, and if you didn't text first, they might see their wanting to hear from you as them being "needy" or an imposition. You texting them every once in a while reminds them that they are important to you, and that you thought about them today.
Introverts are often bad about not texting back. We see your text, smile because you texted us, and then respond to your text in our heads and not with our phone. Not all of us are like that. Some of us are so happy to see you messaged us that we will drop everything we are doing just to respond to you--all over the floor.
We also often find that many people only text us when they want something. Money. A ride. A favor. We don't mind those things usually, but if that's the only time you text us, it makes us feel like that's all we are to you. It's even worse when the person texting starts off with small talk (when we haven't heard from them in weeks or months) in an attempt to make it seem like they aren't only texting us for that purpose. We know it's coming. We love you, but we're not dumb.
(Texting for advice is something we don’t mind though. We love when you value our opinion.)
Include us in things. Invite us to things. Please. We may not always come, but it feels so good to know we were important enough to ask. We've often convinced ourselves that we are the "oddball" and that not being invited to the party or the get-together is to be expected because we are awkward. This rings especially true when we already deal with depression, as many introverts do.
Please, invite us. We're trying.
Keep texting first. Some of us live to hear our phone go "Ding!"
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